In this post: Comfort for child loss is often found in knowing that you are not alone. With pregnancy and infant loss affecting 1 out of every 4 women, there are others who can relate to and support you. And ultimately, Christ is the Wonderful Counselor. There are also groups and organizations available to both provide support and be a listening ear.
Comfort for Parents of Child Loss: You are not alone
Isolation
When my first miscarriage occurred, I was in shock. We had barely even told anyone that I was pregnant, but I had already pictured our lives in my head. We discussed names, room decor, parenting values, rules, dreams for him or her, and so on. I was completely attached and utterly in love. I turned to those closest to me who I had already shared our news with, but not all of them understood.
There are an abundance of difficult parts to losing a child, but one of them was when I had friends stop talking to me. This became even worse later when our daughter died. One example was when my closest friend showed up to the funeral after ignoring my calls for weeks because she was upset my parents needed to stay with us on a date she was wanting to. I believed that seeing her there must have meant that the lack of phone calls was some sort of misunderstanding, except when I wrapped my arms around her she turned her head away and wouldn’t hug me back instead. Or actually talk to me. At my daughter’s funeral. Yes, that actually happened. And that, almost 8 years ago, was the last time I ever saw her or heard from her after we had been inseparable for years.
